Relationships

Is happiness the real purpose of marriage? 

We sometimes say we leave marriages because we are no longer happy and God wants us to be happy. How true is this statement though? Are we supposed to be getting married to be happy? Shouldn't we be happy beings before getting married? Placing this much responsibility of your own happiness on another party is… Continue reading Is happiness the real purpose of marriage? 

Life, Relationships

I have a new name…

Upon a cross they hung a man who redefined who I am! I have worn the label 'divorcee' with so much regret, shame, guilt, condemnation, and humiliation. I use the word 'worn' because that's exactly what I feel I did. I woke up each morning and put on the label as one would wear a… Continue reading I have a new name…

Relationships

When is the right time to have a DTR?

I must say that a DTR is a new concept in my vocab. Excuse my delayed reaction because I hear it is quite an old phenomenon. So, a DTR is a conversation people have to Define The Relationship. Usually, this kind of conversation is held by a couple who feel they need to have clarity… Continue reading When is the right time to have a DTR?

Relationships

It sort of, kind of, almost fits

The wedding season is full-on and bells are ringing in all directions. Outfits and festivities are the order of the day. Choosing a life partner is such an important decision, not one to be made lightly. Duh! You may think, but you'd be surprised how many of us make this huge decision with not much… Continue reading It sort of, kind of, almost fits

Relationships

Lots of weddings, very few marriages 

I occasionally enjoy watching programmes such as Say yes to the dress, Married at first sight and South Africa's beloved, My perfect wedding. The central theme to all the programmes seems to be the pursuit of the perfect wedding day. Perfect dress, perfect decor, the perfect car, perfect suit, perfect hair and makeup and so the… Continue reading Lots of weddings, very few marriages 

Relationships

7th year wedding anniversary

My heart is beating so fast as I pen this. It is never easy to be real and honest about areas of your brokenness but this is where I am right now...   Today, 9 May 2016 could have been my 7th year wedding anniversary. I wrestled hard on whether to use 'would have' or… Continue reading 7th year wedding anniversary

Relationships

7 quotes on marriage by IFP leader – Prince Mangosuthu Buthelezi

  Photo cred: SA Magazine dot com Facebook page  Buthelezi who comes from a polygamous family decided to live a monogamous marriage life with Princess Irene with whom they've been married for 64 years. So much wisdom in these quotes. 1) Over the years, I came under some pressure to take another wife, but I am… Continue reading 7 quotes on marriage by IFP leader – Prince Mangosuthu Buthelezi