We sometimes say we leave marriages because we are no longer happy and God wants us to be happy. How true is this statement though? Are we supposed to be getting married to be happy? Shouldn't we be happy beings before getting married? Placing this much responsibility of your own happiness on another party is… Continue reading Is happiness the real purpose of marriage?
Upon a cross they hung a man who redefined who I am! I have worn the label 'divorcee' with so much regret, shame, guilt, condemnation, and humiliation. I use the word 'worn' because that's exactly what I feel I did. I woke up each morning and put on the label as one would wear a… Continue reading I have a new name…
Courtesy of Itumeleng Sibiya who was generous enough to buy me this book as it was being released in the States, what a gem it's been. I have absolutely loved reading this book. For a celebrity couple, practicing celibacy would be the last thing one would associate with Hollywood. The book has so many treasures… Continue reading The Wait (Devon Franklin & Meagan Good)
I must say that a DTR is a new concept in my vocab. Excuse my delayed reaction because I hear it is quite an old phenomenon. So, a DTR is a conversation people have to Define The Relationship. Usually, this kind of conversation is held by a couple who feel they need to have clarity… Continue reading When is the right time to have a DTR?
The wedding season is full-on and bells are ringing in all directions. Outfits and festivities are the order of the day. Choosing a life partner is such an important decision, not one to be made lightly. Duh! You may think, but you'd be surprised how many of us make this huge decision with not much… Continue reading It sort of, kind of, almost fits
At almost 35, people are often surprised at the fact that I don’t have children. If my grandmother could do anything about it, I swear she would. Last year she said to me, ‘Vero, when I was your age, I had more than 5 children already. What are you waiting for? Jy is groot genoeg!’… Continue reading Things to consider before / when dating someone with a child/children (Especially when you don’t have your own)
I occasionally enjoy watching programmes such as Say yes to the dress, Married at first sight and South Africa's beloved, My perfect wedding. The central theme to all the programmes seems to be the pursuit of the perfect wedding day. Perfect dress, perfect decor, the perfect car, perfect suit, perfect hair and makeup and so the… Continue reading Lots of weddings, very few marriages
My heart is beating so fast as I pen this. It is never easy to be real and honest about areas of your brokenness but this is where I am right now... Today, 9 May 2016 could have been my 7th year wedding anniversary. I wrestled hard on whether to use 'would have' or… Continue reading 7th year wedding anniversary
I sometimes hate the fact that I seem to have become a FAQ Go-to when it comes to the matter of divorce because I hate seeing marriages end. On the other hand, I am grateful that this experience allows me to speak into so many people's lives where I can share my experiences and how… Continue reading Being the Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) “Go-To” on divorce
Photo cred: SA Magazine dot com Facebook page Buthelezi who comes from a polygamous family decided to live a monogamous marriage life with Princess Irene with whom they've been married for 64 years. So much wisdom in these quotes. 1) Over the years, I came under some pressure to take another wife, but I am… Continue reading 7 quotes on marriage by IFP leader – Prince Mangosuthu Buthelezi