Boitumelo Vero Rikhotso

Destined for greatness!

Big Magic by Liz Gilbert  August 1, 2017

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2016, Bloomsbury, Pages: 276

This book is fantastic!!!

It has been quite a long time since I’ve since read a book, especially a self-help one at that which has affected me like this one has. Creativity is frustrating territory and Liz Gilbert has managed to tackle the subject with so much ease while hitting the topic bulls-eye. You may recognize that name from her book, Eat, Pray Love unless you’re like me and only know the movie. She does not shy away from the grit, the excitement, the pain, passion, depression, joy and frustration etc of what creatives or artists go through in pursuit of their craft. This book has been pure bliss for me. It’s not a book I’d have ever thought of buying for myself, not in a million years. The title, subject matter, and the cover weren’t grabbing enough for me to even consider it. Thanks to my lovely friend, Denise Cook who bought this book for me as my farewell present. So many times over I’ve received words from various unrelated people telling me I have a story to tell. People saying God had given me, some dare say ‘talent’ and that I needed to write.

Well, writing has always been something I’ve always loved and wanted to do from as far back as I can remember and that I was going to do in future. I express myself in the written word far better than orally anyway. The seed for reading and writing was planted by my parents who are avid readers. As much as I agreed with the sentiments people had towards me about writing, somehow the way stories unfolded in my head didn’t translate as I had wanted them on paper. I’d read what I had written and then be discouraged by the flow / lack of and then completely abandon the idea because it was clear the book wouldn’t win a Pulitzer Prize. Liz addresses this pressure we put on ourselves so elaborately clear. This pressure can suppress our creativity and inspiration because when the goal is to write a number 1 New York best seller, although noble an ambition, the result can be that the process of writing offers no joy anymore which is why we do it in the first place. We create because it brings us joy and when we are joyful, we wish to share it with others. Another hot topic she challenges is one of leaning entirely on our creative abilities to create wealth. She says that if we expect to make a living out of our passions / areas of creativity, often times we put too much pressure on ourselves and our artistry and demand that it pay our bills and make us millionaires which can be a huge burden. I love how she practically shares how she got to write her first works while she worked as a waitress and other professions. It wasn’t after Eat, Pray, Love, her 4th book that she managed to be able to write full-time. If we become millionaires out of it, great, but sometimes it doesn’t happen that way. Unless it is something you love doing even without payment, maybe consider another profession. The journey of the creative artist is neither smooth nor easy. This book is honest and direct about this and is literally filled with many ‘Aha’ moments.

One of the reasons I have delayed to publish my first novel / anthology of short stories as planned is because as I grew older and read others’ work, I talked myself out of writing anything for public consumption. Instead of providing inspiration, others’ work brought torture and feelings of inadequacy. There was no way I could claim to write when the likes of Arundathi Royi, Fred Khumalo, Chinua Achebe, Nadine Gordimer and Liz Gilbert could write sentences that leave you literally gasping for air and questioning your own abilities, I thought. Needless to say, what this book did for me was give me permission to be free and to be me without the stress of wanting to be like another person or trying to emulate what another person has done. It has helped me embrace the uniqueness that is me and that just as one gets better by doing, I can’t hope to grow a muscle I refuse to exercise. Beyond talent comes discipline and the perseverance to continue to even during the dry spells.

I thoroughly enjoyed this book and highly recommend it to all creatives and artists. I am now finally going to finish my book and have it published – Finish and Klaar!


The Wait (Devon Franklin & Meagan Good) March 31, 2017

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2016, Howard Books,
ISBN: 978-1-5011-0529-6, Pages: 243

Courtesy of Itumeleng Sibiya who was generous enough to buy me this book as it was being released in the States, what a gem it’s been. I have absolutely loved reading this book. For a celebrity couple, practicing celibacy would be the last thing one would associate with Hollywood. The book has so many treasures and nuggets I literally underlined so many pages. One of my favorite chapters in the book was chapter 6 (What keeps men from waiting) as it gave me so much insight into how men process sex and dating. This was a great eye opener and gave me a bit of insight in my dealing with men in this area. Devon and Megan are honest about their journeys leading up to their marriage while being open about their mistakes. I’m a firm believer that people may love hearing about our successes but connect more with our weaknesses so I believe they did this well. The book chronicles how they met, how they courted, how Devon proposed and how they are now in marriage. They also share practical tips on how to make the daunting ‘waiting’ experience a pleasant and beneficial one and not one where one is almost like in a holding pattern waiting to be rescued. Some of their approaches and suggestions raised my eyebrows so I found myself having to be more open minded as long as it wasn’t contrary to the Word. As someone practicing celibacy, the book was a great help in helping me think through sex and dating as I consider the possibility of being in a relationship again. I recommend this book for all single ladies and gents out there. The book has succeeded in making celibacy fashionable again given the state of immediate self-gratification we seem to be swallowed in even in the church. It’s an easy read and reminds us all that God is still in the business of writing love stories.


117 Days (Ruth First) January 2, 2017

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117 Days (Ruth First)
An account of confinement and interrogation under the South African ninety-day detention law


Introduction by husband, Joe Slovo,
1998 (first published in 1965), Bloomsbury,
ISBN: 0-7475-0233-1, Pages: 144

In December 2015 I visited Robben Island with a friend, Selaelo Letsoalo and halfway through the tour we stopped at the little Island tuck-shop where people could buy snacks. I of course headed for the bookshelf and found this precious gem of a memoir. The book is only 144 pages and can be read in a day or two or three J. I was immediately drawn to the book because when I go to my parents’ home in Mabopane, I take an off ramp named ‘Ruth First’ and I had always wondered who she was since I never studied about her in history in school. I mean you have to be pretty awesome to have anything written or named after you right? So I figured she must be something, and quite something she was I soon discovered.

First, a petite summary about Ruth First
Ruth First was a journalist, an anti-apartheid activist, and a member of the African National Congress (ANC) and the South African Communist Party (SACP). She was one of the 156 defendants of the famous Treason Trial together with Nelson Mandela, Govan Mbeki, Walter Sisulu and others. Ruth First was the first non-black woman to be detained under the 90-day law of the apartheid times. This law empowered authorities to detain a person for a period of 90 days without a warrant, a charge, and a trial. Only she served more than 90 days as many others did; 117 days to be exact in isolation. She was married to Joe Slovo, another ANC stalwart and was killed by a letter bomb in Mozambique in the year 1982. Ruth and Joe had three daughters, Shawn, Robyn and Gillian Slovo. The book is Ruth’s Memoir of her time in prison during her 117 isolated imprisonment.

This book has made me appreciate freedom and democracy all over again. Things our parents and grandparents were exposed to under apartheid were just atrocious. I didn’t realize how many non-black people were involved in the struggle and this book introduced me to some of them. I took long to finish this book because I often paused to google names I had never heard of before.

So in a nutshell, the book chronicles Ruth First’s courageous, unapologetic defiance of the system of the time even under difficult conditions. She shares what she was exposed to, how she coped with the loneliness and fear, her relationship with the wardens, and basically how she kept herself sane away from her family and friends. Many ways of getting information from her by the security branch were tried but she never cracked. At times they would tell her that such and such a person had said a particular thing in order to get her to say what she knew regarding the happenings at the farm house but she stood her ground. The story is gripping, emotional and very personal.

The book also balances out the bold experiences where she stood her ground and commanded respect from her enemies during interrogation and also does not shy away from experiences where her emotions showed. When a shower was built in the prison bathroom on her request, I took my hat off for her – this is one of the parts in the book that has stuck to my mind – so much respect. On day 89 when she was released only to be rearrested, this exposed the ugly of the system and how much they played on people’s emotions and the abuse of power by the authorities. Freedom and equality for all at all costs – that was the goal, always overshadowing any kind of pain and torture for Ruth and many others who went through the same.

These people of old were made of the sterner stuff. The resilience, the strength, the character, the politics and the history of the day are a rich come away in this book. My confidence is renewed and I appreciate my freedom all the more.

Read this book.


Selaelo Letsoalo and Moi — Dec 2015, Robben Island, Cape Town, South Africa










The 30th Candle (Angela Makholwa) September 15, 2015

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2009, Macmillan, ISBN: 978-1-77010-356-6, Pages: 304

For my 10 and a half hour trip to Frankfurt, Germany, I took Angela Makholwa’s The 30th Candle for company. I read the first few pages and put the book down. It didn’t sound all too interesting. I then tucked into my dinner and paged through the entertainment menu on offer in case I couldn’t get into the book again. After failing to fall asleep, I decided to pick the book up again and give it another bash – and Ahoy! We were off!!!

The book chronicles the lives of four girlfriends and how they feel about turning the big 30! It is not easy for a writer to keep the authenticity of each individual characters but I think that’s one thing that Makholwa managed to do well in this book. Although the character Linda is more prominent, I think Makholwa managed to give each girl her own space to shine. She was able to give each character their own personality through and through. Just like in any group of more than two people, there are a number of cliques in this group which makes the story interesting as one unravels which cliques keeps which secret between them.

There is Linda who is the non-relationship committal workaholic TV producer type who seems to be this group’s glue as all have a relationship with her. Then there is Nolwazi who’s the closest to Linda, a fashion designer with a damming secret that threatens to break this group apart. Sade is a girl with an ugly past who has since turned a new leaf but keeps getting reminded of her past sins by her ‘perfect’ husband whom she has put on a pedestal until the most despicable thing is discovered about him. And then lastly there is the Psychologist Dikeledi who represents so many girls’ struggles with regards to decisions about men.

The girls go through a lot of challenges together and although they have a lot of instances that threaten to break their friendship apart, at the end of it all, they are there for one another. This is basically a story about a group of girls who survive life together and are real about what they feel which isn’t always common in the real world. So bar a few slow start pages, the rest of the book was captivating and graphic with lots of secrets and a lot of fun girl-talk.

I really enjoyed the book and will check out her other two books; Red Ink and Black Widow Society.

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Yo! I used to read A LOT June 3, 2015

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Source: bookwormsclub

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One thing about moving and having to deal with boxes is that it reminds you just how much junk you manage to hoard over the years but on the flip side, one also finds things long forgotten. Treasures if you may. This evening scrambling through one of the many boxes, I found this book where I used to list books I had finished reading in 2004. This was not even the whole list because I read ‘Postmortem’ by Patricia Cornwell in July after I had just moved to moved Cape Town and Chantal van Steijn introduced me to this awesome Writer. This means by mid 2004, I had already read 24 books.

List of books read by mid 2004

List of books read by mid 2004

Currently I am on about a book a month or a book in 2 months which I must improve on but with school and a demanding job, it is tricky. The trend will steadily improve though because some of you have asked that I do more book reviews.

FYI – I am currently reading ‘I write what I like’ by the legend, Steve Bantu Biko, courtesy of Dr Simon Tati Mangcwatywa. Don’t worry mate, I’ll look after your prized possession well. Biko? You may ask. Aren’t you too late in the century for that? You should have read that ages ago! I know…Bear with me here! My own 2015 ala ‘post-democracy’ review of the book will follow



LIRA – Making HERstory – A decade of achievement (Part 2) February 12, 2015

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Ok this is long overdue. This is a continuation of the review I did on Lira’s book a few weeks ago. To read Part 1 of the review, go here.

So I had hoped that Lira would share her secrets on caring for her Afro right? Well, it happened that the very next page I read after writing the first review dealt with that exactly. Pretty basic actually. Wash and moisturizer full stop simple and practical.

The middle of the book is decorated with 16 pages of Lira’s photographs through various stages of her life and I must admit I went there first before reading the book 😜.

The rest of the book is written by two people, Clyde Meela – the journalist who co-wrote the book with her and her husband, Robin Kohl. Meela writes about the interviews he had with Lira’s family and her friends while Robin goes deeper into what happens behind the scenes of the Lira brand. Meela appeals to the softer side of Lira, what her upbringing was like and all the people that have contributed to whom Lerato and not so much Lira is. Robin on the other hand speaks of relationships with co-musicians, sponsors and other business partners and what it takes to be at the helm of this super brand.

Overall, I loved this book but more especially the first part where it is written from her point of view. The last 2 parts of the book are also quite interesting as they give other perspectives to Lira but I wasn’t too excited by them. You see I like hearing things from the horse’s mouth.

As mentioned before, if there is anything I have taken from this book, it is the spirit of tenacity, excellence and working hard to achieve ones’ goals. I am proud of what this African child has managed to build! Keep shining!


LIRA – Making HERstory – A decade of achievement (Part 1) January 24, 2015

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I generally do a book review after having finished a book but I have to make an exception with this one. I absolutely love auto/biographies. I find people and their stories fascinating so I’m very drawn to such books to hear what inspires people, what makes them who they are, and what goes on in their minds.

Hearing ‘I’m a believer’ by Lira from a list of shuffling songs on my iPod today made me sit up and really listen to this lady. All of a sudden the song had new meaning because I knew how it had come about

Courtesy of a big sale at, I bought myself a copy of the LIRA – Making herstory, a decade of achievement book and from when it got delivered yesterday afternoon, I have struggled to put it down. For those who may not know who Lira is, here’s a short description.

Lira is a dazzling (read book to find out why I use ‘dazzling’), multi-award winning South African artist who seems to be grown way ahead of her years. She sings and performs with a great deal of talent, passion and energy which has captivated the hearts of many South Africans and internationals alike. ‘Lira’ is her stage name/nickname emanating from her name ‘Lerato’ which means ‘love’ in the Setswana / Sotho languages. Her list of achievements is quite long and after reading the book, like me, you’ll have newly found respect and admiration for her and her craft.

I was amazed by how much a hard worker she is. I think everyone in South Africa will tell you how busy Lira is. Hardly a week goes by without hearing of a concert that she’ll be singing at. The book is candid about her experiences into the music industry, her upbringing and how she goes about making things happen in her life and career. When people out there have a talent and believe that things will just fall on their laps, that people will discover them while they do very little on their part, Lira’s story will MAKE you WANT to get up and go chase after your dreams. This girl is a go-getter of note.

I am only half-way through the book but I am left speechless at how much one can go after a dream and live a life of purpose despite the challenges it brings. I dare everyone who’s got a dream to take time and read this book and learn how tenacious one has to be in achieving what they dream for themselves. So far, I’m left inspired, intrigued and mesmerised by the sheer volume / magnitude of person she is. I now know for sure that when we do work we are good at or love or things we believe we are born to do, we can be the best in our field and live a full life. The cliché ‘love what you do and you’ll never work a day in your life,’ rings true.

She goes into how her songwriting sessions take place,  how she believes for things in her life, how she relates with family and how her upbringing has impacted her. I mean real honest and deep things that I am not sure I would share – quite candid. The book makes me feel like I know her a bit better and will hopefully understand her better. I know that for me, watching her perform or hearing her song on radio will never be the same again. She has my respect.

I just had to pause and mull over what I’ve read so far. I hope in pages to come I will hear about how she keeps her Afro in tip-top shape! 😜

To be continued… Read Part 2 here…